"Love", in the sense of igniting the flames is easy. "Love" in the sense of infatuation, lust, or "the honey moon phase" is almost effortless. The urge to spoil them, to smother them with love, to make sure that they have absolutely everything they could ever ask wish for and more, is overwhelming. It comes naturally. That's all you want to do. Your happiness is their smile, and the way they light up when they look at you. 

Sadly, this urge is short lived. It's not uncommon for people to settle into the mindset of, "I already won him/her." Just because they are your's doesn't mean you stop putting in effort. It's not that one must always act as though they are trying to win over their person of interest. It's just that ... it's too common that one gets overly comfortable with their relationship. What comes next? Someone is taken for granted, appreciation diminishes as services and favours become a part of everyday life, someone stops showing their love and someone stops feeling loved.

No matter how many months, years or decades you have been together, never forget to show someone that you love them. Never forget to satisfy their need for intimacy. Granted, you will never feel the same way as you did during the honeymoon phase. It's a fleeting feeling, a rush of lust, infatuation and curiosity. It's something you will only feel in the very beginning. However... love should never feel dull. Love should never feel like a chore, nor should it ever feel like an obligation. 

If they really loved you, from the bottom of their heart, you should feel it in your heart. It should make you light up and glow. It should make you smile, even without any real reason to. I don't think these feels should be fleeting. I think that you should always be doing something to make sure your partner feels this, no matter the medium may be. 

 Love is when the fuel of the honeymoon phase has burnt out, but the flame is still burning strong from the efforts of both parties. 

It's easy to ignite the flames, but whether or not flame continues to burn is entirely up to you.

Even with progression in a positive direction, hidden under the surface is the sense of numbness that pokes at me.

When you begin to dig a bit deeper, you will find anger. You will find resentment. You will find someone who is fucking screaming from the pain of the year of wrongdoing. You will find someone who will lash out at any repeated offences, no matter what the magnitude. 

But when you dig beyond that, you will just find someone who is lonely. You will find someone who is wounded. Someone who is exhausted of staying strong. 

I've fought with everything I had. Now there's nothing left of me.

But then again, I'm just playing the victim card again aren't I.