People these days take on relationships in such a naive and childish way compared to the generations before us. It is more of a fairy tale than reality to most, hence why it is possible for people to think that being together for a few months is a "long time". Everytime some arguement springs up, we tend to question ourselves if we are "with the right person". It is as though our significant other is souly responsible for our happiness, and once that honeymoon phase high is no longer present due to disagreements and the clashing of personalities, we feel as though it is wrong. The desire for the high that was once present in the relationship eventually leads to ... yeah.

Its just that people do not understand that every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; youfall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls,want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love. People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." 

Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU. Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, youmay begin to desire that experience with someoneelse. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not

finding the right person;

  it's learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship.

It lies within it.
 
 I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Why?

Because the key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found. SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. 

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws of the universe, there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: You have no power in who walks into your life, however it is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.

Also, don't get me wrong, even though this is the theory I go by, it is not always easy to follow it. Everyone is only human, we make mistakes and we contradict ourselves. But that is how we learn and grow as a person.